Friday, June 7, 2019

Marriage and sex

OH DEAR, I was half asleep last night when I posted this and put it in the wrong blog. Yikes. NOT ONE WORD ABOUT QUILTING! My apologies! I am reposting it where it is supposed to go.

Given current attitudes in North America toward sex and marriage, many people would say that the Bible is irrelevant, particularly the multiple wives thing in the Old Testament and the submission stuff in the New Testament. Yet as I read it, the practices of people in those days as now tends toward selfish desires. Doing things my own way instead of God’s way has always been called sin. Perhaps that is the real reason for pushing the Word of God away. In our sinful ways, we reject what God says in favor of what we want.

For those who believe in Jesus Christ and want to follow Him, questions come up and Christians want answers that make sense. Some want God to agree with their ideas yet the NT believers in Corinth realized this was not the way of faith. They wrote a letter to Paul and bluntly asked him their questions about sex.

Somewhere along their life, they got the idea that all sex was sinful. Maybe it was because there is no mention of it until after Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit. Maybe it was because they wondered how anything so pleasurable to the flesh could be okay with God. Whatever their reasons, these early Christians wanted to know God’s take on sexual relationships and Paul answered them.

Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7:1–5)

The problem was not sex itself but sexual immorality. The Bible defines this in two ways. One is sex before marriage called fornication and associated with promiscuity. The other is sex with someone other than your spouse called adultery. In both cases, those involved have lost self-control. Since self-control is a result of being filled with the Holy Spirit, then those who do not have it are following the desires of the flesh. Christian or not, this is sin.

This passage warns married couples not to misuse their sexuality by withholding it from their partner. Doing so is okay for a short time to devote one’s self to prayer, otherwise the desire leads to lack of self-control and giving the devil opportunity to lead you astray.

Paul also addresses this problem to those without a spouse. He says . . .

To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife. To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him . . . (1 Corinthians 7:8–16)

Again, the issue is self-control (being filled with the Holy Spirit) rather than letting the flesh dictate behavior. If anyone is particularly troubled by their physical desires, they should be married, not fighting temptation all the time. Simple solution? For many, it may not seem like it, but this is what God gave Paul.
He also addresses issues about divorce (verses not included) that stress how marriage is where God can bless and build faith in God.

On a personal note, I was married twice. The first time was before Christ and a divorce was part of how He got through to my selfish heart. From personal experience in too many situations to describe, God showed me that everything He says about sex and marriage is not only right, but following His ways brings incredible blessing. It is not always easy to obey God but striving to be filled with the Spirit does produce the self-control necessary to do it.

Lord Jesus, what can I say but thank You for the life lessons and for the firm belief that You know what is best for Your creation, back then and right up to this day. The mess the world has made of the purity and faithfulness You want in marriage has caused so much heartache and problems. Just as in ancient Corinth, we need salvation from our sins and Your Spirit to help us live in ways that not only honor You but give us great joy.

Thursday, June 6, 2019

By this time soon ...

By this time soon this quilt will be in the hands and on the bed where it belongs. My daughter wanted subway tiles in taupe gradually going from dark to light. This was not as easy as I thought to get the color graduation, but the piecing was simple. Manipulating that much fabric was another story. 

The quilt is 112" wide so it will hang over the bed, and 100" tall. The panto is called "Dazzle" and makes dense quilting, just what she wanted. I had people praying for me to persevere and get it done by yesterday... which I did. Thank You Lord!!

The name: "You are Covered" (Psalm 85:2). 

It looks so good on my bed that I'm thinking of making another king-size - indicating that I've truly lost my mind!


Friday, May 31, 2019

So slow...

Just realized that deleting my weekly reminder to post here does not do the job unless I also do the rest... and the weeks fly by besides. Yikes, it is over a month... 😦

Anyway, I've been busy. We have had several unexpected events in our lives, a couple of health issues, and lots on our plates. Even with all that, my daughter's king-size is nearly quilted. Here is a peek, at least until I give it to her. Deadline looming... This shows one pass of the panto I'm using. It is called "Dazzle" and is small, but what her hubby needs (weight but not thickness) to sleep well. The quilt is in multiple shades of taupe, most of which which were hard to find!

And here is a current charity quilt. The panel is nice, added some pick mini squares and a border. I may add another one. It goes on the longarm as soon as the king is finished.

Tuesday, April 23, 2019

Odds and Ends

I'm working on my daughter's king-size and don't want to post it yet... also working on a charity baby quilt from a panel. I'll post it when the elaborate border is done. Don't have room on my design wall for it yet so picture taking is a bit more challenging.

A woman in our guild says that she takes every bit of her leftovers from a project and makes blocks out of it, usually 4 inch 4-patches. Wish I'd heard that years ago! I make a twin quilt and had just small pieces left over and made these 6" blocks. I love them and will use them in something -- as long as I don't give in to the temptation and turn them into mug rugs. With sashing, they could be a small mat??

Here us another idea for a larger scrap. It is a small gift or jewelry bag. I left my hand in so you can see the size, about 5" x 7" and quick to make. The drawstring dresses it up.

 If anyone has more ideas for leftovers besides the usual scrappy quilt, I'd love to hear about them!

Saturday, April 13, 2019

One Block Wonder

I made one, but now have to do this again. The blocks are like a kaleidoscope -- impossible to put down because of the surprises. 

Also, I joined a Facebook Group called OBW and they are putting the most colorful and surprising quilts online. Some are made with prints using repeats and some are made with panels. The idea is to buy 7 and incorporated the hexies around one panel. 

Here is one example. The photo isn't the greatest but I love the way the quilter blended the blocks and framed the little angel in the panel. BTW, if you want to join that group, they ask that when you post your project, post a photo of the original fabric... so take a picture before cutting it up.

Here is a photo of the panels I have sitting in the wings to make a OBW. I'm itching to get started but still working on a king-size... Since this panel is 36" wide, it should make a rather large quilt too, once I get the hexies cut and arranged around it, etc. It was on sale at the Hancock's-Paducah online store. There are several that sell panels and some of them are really lovely.

Wednesday, April 3, 2019

Another one finished...

This is a surprise for a dear friend who turned 90 a few weeks ago. It is not a birthday gift though... the title says it all: "For the Joy that You Bring..." (see Philippians 1:3-5)

I was inspired by a pack of florals in my stash and a table runner pattern from the book "Skinny Quilts and Table Runners." I'd made one in pink florals for a charity auction and it was one of the first items to sell. This one uses the same blocks only more of them. It is 60" x 89" (she is a little lady) and quilted with a panto called "Breath of the Gods."

I had to photo it draped over my long arm because I'm working on my daughter's king-size and it takes up my only design wall. 

This king It is a simple design and should finish quickly. I'm still sleepy all the time, but it is a false feeling. If I get moving, it passes. Doc's assistant calls it "the new normal" 😏

Saturday, March 16, 2019

Is finished really better?

The Dear Jane folks say 'finished is better than perfect' yet sometimes I want to do a better job, or at least a little faster. This was difficult to finish. I started it ions ago, then had heart trouble (A-Fib), cataracts fixed, a couple of problems with one eye, and all sorts of trouble with ambition last year. When my doctors decided a pacemaker would fix the irregular heart, that took the stuffing out of me for a few months. So has adjusting to what my pacemaker nurse calls the "new normal" and being sleepy all the time. (I'm likely going to have them turn it up a bit, pulse is set at 60 so when I wake up I don't feel like getting up - which will make it work harder.)

However, all whining aside, this one is done and ready for its new home -- which is going to be built by early fall... so I didn't need to rush after all. 😊 It was hard to see - small stitches for the applique, and putting a black facing on black backing with black thread. If you have never tried that, I don't recommend it! And I made three mistakes doing the label of all things, but it is finished. About 25" square and for my daughter. Shhh, don't tell her. She asked me to make it, but by now she may have forgotten! It will match the runner I made for her awhile ago.